 SHADOW SELF Here is something to ponder then next time you find yourself annoyed by someone you are with. We project onto others what we have disowned in ourselves. Can’t stand how whiny a co-worker is or how selfish your sister-in-law appears to be? Well I have news for you; the people who we are most critical of are the ones that are acting out our own suppressedqualities. These are qualities that we don’t like or want to acknowledge. This concept is termed “the Shadow Self”. The Shadow Self is the part of us that we hide from others and ourselves. What this means is that we will nit pick or make fun of another person because we have the exact same qualities within ourselves that we have labeled as bad and then rejected it from being a part of us. In a lot of ways this makes sense because why would we want to accept something that we believe to be bad? However, denying who we truly are by ignoring our shortcomings does not make them go away. We are not created to be black and white, good or bad beings. We as humans are more complex then that. So cut yourself and other’s some slack. Appreciate and respect that there are parts of you that you don’t like but are nonetheless part of you; a part that cannot be merely ignored. Accept the fact that we do and will gossip, whine, or be self-centered. During those times love yourself instead of beat yourself up about it. I believe that we tend to forget to love, respect and forgive ourselves when we are being human. If we can’t do it for ourselves then nobody will be able to do it for us either. So the next time you’re annoyed with someone, instead of letting it get you all worked up, check in with your shadow self to see if there is a connection. If so, it’s time to do some work on loving and accepting who you are.  Warmly, Brenda |
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